Women, Porn and the F-word
Sexual instincts and social morality do not always sit comfortably together: if imaginations roam free then there will be creativity and discovery, but there will also be misogyny and violence. The debate as it stands at the moment therefore seems to ask that women now make the uneasy choice of exploring one at the cost of accepting the other
By Ali H on Sunday, November 22nd, 2009 - 1,637 words.

“Whenever a taboo is broken,” Henry Miller once told an interviewer from the Paris Review “something good happens, something vitalizing.” Taboo-breaking is a way of laying the truth bare, of removing socially-imposed boundaries in order to see things as they really are. From the earliest stag films to the wealth of magazines, films and online content available today, pornography has always operated at the fringes of society and challenged each generation’s preconceptions of what is sexually – and morally – acceptable. Taboos are, after all, “only hangovers” Miller reminds us, only “the product of diseased minds, of fearsome people who haven’t the courage to live.”
To say that pornography is vitalizing in this sense is to assume that it necessarily tells the truth about male and female sexuality. Many women feel that it does. Others, however, argue that it does the opposite. Many feminists – that dirtiest of words – would go further and say that in a cash-rich industry run largely by men for men, porn can neither be relied on to tell the truth about women or be expected to be in any sense revolutionary. Yet women work in the porn industry, women watch the material produced by the porn industry and women have also campaigned against the censorship of that industry. How can this make sense?
The truth is that it doesn’t. Women are confused about pornography, and feminists are deeply divided by it. The traditional feminist position – and the one most frequently associated with the feminist movement – is vehemently anti-porn and pro-censorship. It sees mainstream pornography as part of a patriarchal discourse, a dialogue between men about women. Whilst women may overhear themselves being talked about, they are never able to be participants in the conversation. This exclusion is, of itself, reductive and objectifying: the viewer is invited to experience the woman being experienced, to part her legs. As her pleasure is commodified, so her sense of her own sexuality becomes warped. “One of the things that pornography has done,” writes radical feminist Angela Dworkin , “is that it’s changed the way women experience their bodies so that sex is what you look like, not what you touch or what you feel and do.”
More disturbing still, these women argue, is the recurrent theme of humiliation and violence that accompanies this objectification. Its hard to disagree. Enter any number of porn sites for offers of ‘tight sluts’, ‘dirty bitches’ and ‘nasty girls who like to fuck.’ Pick up Playboy for one of several rape scene photoshoots. Hustler for jokes about and cartoons of sexual violence. Gag Factor, one of the most popular websites in mainstream ‘gonzo porn’, for ‘new whores degraded every Wednesday.’ The list goes on. And on. And on. This pervasive sense of misogyny is damaging both because of the kind of feelings it unleashes against women, but also because of the way it conditions both male and female sexuality. As feminist and anti-porn campaigner Robert Jensen writes:
“We are constantly told pornography is about fantasies, but the scenes in these movies happened to those women. And after those scenes were put on videotape, the films were sold and rented to thousands of men who took it home, put it into VCRs or DVD players, and masturbated to orgasm. That also is real. Those specific women and those specific men are part of the world we live in. And that idea of what a woman is, and that idea of what men’s sexuality is – those ideas are also part of the world we live in. None of it is a fantasy. All of it is as real as we are.”
So how can such realities be changed? Angela Dworkin believes that the only solution is for women to be granted their own homeland and to live separately from men. The more moderate majority of anti-porn feminists – as well as Dworkin – have taken part in a sustained campaign for the widespread censorship of pornography. Here, anti-porn does not equate to anti-sex, but rather a belief that healthy sexual relationships between men and women can only flourish in the absence of an industry that seeks to make a profit through engendering feelings of insecurity and mistrust between them. Both sexes ultimately lose out, they argue, but it is women who stand to lose the most. As Catherine MacKinnon has so eloquently put it, through pornography, women are “reduced and devalued and silenced… Even if she can form words, who listens to a woman with a penis in her mouth?”
Pro-pornography feminists would like to re-frame the debate entirely: it is for a woman to decide what she puts in her mouth, and for other women to decide if they want to listen to her or not. Individualistic feminism insists that women be free to choose whether to work in or watch pornography, no matter what that choice entails. To maintain that any women taking part in porn must either be coerced, abused or desperate for money (See MacKinnon again: “All pornography is made overwhelmingly by poor, desperate, homeless, pimped women who were sexually abused as children”) is to deny the fact that women are sexual beings too; that they have their own desires, fantasies and curiosities. Banning pornography altogether would be an act of silencing in itself, and amount to a kind of regressive moralism. However, while maintaining that the industry needs to be allowed to continue to exist, they would also argue that some radical shifts need to occur before women can occupy a comfortable place within it. They believe, as Angela Carter does, that “pornographers are the enemies of women only because our contemporary ideology of pornography does not encompass the possibility of change, as if we were the slaves of history and not its makers.”
The kind of changes they propose involve a re-visioning of the industry so that it becomes one that genuinely reflects and respects female sexuality. Feminist porn star Bobby Lilly believes that “we have to understand the potential there is [in pornography] for women to speak about ourselves. This has not been tapped. It is only just beginning. If we close the doors to sexual expression, we will never find the connection between sex and our power.” She believes that the more socially accepted pornography becomes, the better the conditions will be for the women who work in it, as their rights would be protected by contracts. Furthermore, argues porn star Nina Hartley, women should not simply be protected from producers and directors through contracts, but occupy those positions themselves: “the old guard is the wrong age, the wrong gender, and the wrong attitude to be of assistance to women.”
Candida Royale is a good working example of such change. She is currently the most powerful woman in porn, and her production company Femme Productions has been running at a profit for over twenty years. There are strict on-set rules designed to protect all of her workers: she will not employ anyone with a history of substance or alcohol abuse or any other self-destructive behaviour, actresses will never be asked to do anything they are not fully comfortable with and safe sex is always practiced. Whilst she feels that many of her values are strongly feminist, she has officially left the movement now, believing that the pro-censorship group within it has changed the idea of what it means; that “`feminism’ now has a bad connotation to it for the younger generation: It is anti-man, anti-sex.”
Feminist pornography therefore seeks to re-equate women with both sexuality and power. As a result, it is often more challenging and complex than the more male-produced erotica that is intended for a female audience and features mostly mood music and candles. In terms of the argument over what is fantasy and what is reality in porn, Candida and many other feminists who are involved in the industry come clearly down on the side of fantasy. As long as the actresses are consenting and comfortable, they argue, then pornography can legitimately become a vehicle by which women can explore their sexual imaginations. The controversial mock rape scenes and themes of domination are felt to be acceptable because they are not about real sexual abuse but a form of consensual power play.
In the end, then, it seems that a subject which is so much about the physical comes down to an argument about imagination: about women’s anxiety over understanding their own sexual imaginations, over this imagination being (mis)understood by men, and over it being somehow manipulated or blunted. Both anti and pro-pornography feminists seem to feel this threat strongly.
Pro-censorship campaigners frequently express the fear that pornography does the thinking for us; subverting the privacy of our thoughts, dictating our desires and assigning us prescribed roles before we have even begun to try and understand our own. Since this dictating is largely done by men, a gap is left where women’s imagining ought to be.
Yet a similar question might also be put back to these campaigners. As feminist scholar Linda Williams has replied, “who are they to tell us where our sexual imaginations should go?” The feminists who work in and watch pornography believe that it has the potential to offer emancipatory possibilities by filling this gap where women’s imagining ought to be. Their fear, however, is that this imagining will be deemed unacceptable and be pushed somewhere out of sight.
If there can ever be a resolution between such opposing views it will have to be one of compromise. Sexual instincts and social morality do not always sit comfortably together: if imaginations roam free then there will be creativity and discovery, but there will also be misogyny and violence. The debate as it stands at the moment therefore seems to ask that women now make the uneasy choice of exploring one at the cost of accepting the other.
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Hi Ali,
This is a very interesting article. Ultimately, pornography is about trust; who does a woman trust with these innermost revelations of her physical being? Some women choose to put that out there, and be shaped by whatever the viewer chooses to make of her; others feel that this something that ought to strengthen and cement risible bonds that enhance personal relationships, rather than simply lend herself over to the male gaze.
It all depends on whether a woman chooses to use her sexuality to titillate, or whether she chooses to employ it in a way that will ultimately strengthen her relationships and her family. There is a reason why men are uncomfortable with their mother or sister being involved in pornography; because, yes, there is a nascent power involved in participating in pornography, but to get that power, ultimately there is still a surrender of a certain level of societal respect. It is because it ultimately cheapens women's core value insofar as she is percieved, much like how you can have more gold if it is plated, but ultimately its potential is lowered. This is why women in positions where intellectual rigour is called for very rarely participate in pornography ie. Angela Merkel, Sonia Ghandi and Golda Meir, et al, et al. They have actually realized this.
At any rate, as I have said, it was an interesting article! And I hope that the debate continues, particularly around the pornification and commodification of young girls, which is something that some feminists have been sounding the boomhorn about in recent days.
Thanks for the comments Jasmine, glad you found it interesting. There are probably a number of reasons why Andrea Merkel doesnt work in the porn industry, but it terms of what youre getting at I think the issue is about how society view those people who choose to express their sexuality publically (and that doesnt just go for women, I imagine Noam Chomsky or Gordon Brown would also find it hard to be taken seriously if they got infront of the camera, but now we're getting into the realms of the bizarre…). Anyway, all of what you mentioned is certainly very true as things stand at the moment, and a great deal of what currently goes on in the porn industry is grimy and exploitative. But then some of it is also genuinely sexy and puts women on an equal footing with the men. I guess what I liked about the pro-pornography feminists is the room they leave for what could be possible – in terms of changing the misogynistic elements in a lot of porn but also in terms of changing society's negative projections onto those women (and perhaps men too) who choose to creatively express their sexuality for the enjoyment for other women and men.
The sexualising of young girls is a different matter completely, and I agree its something that needs to be looked at really seriously (I think Anna Richardson did something for Channel 4 about it a few months ago), though I think perhaps the advertising industry bears at least some of the responsibility for this too. Anyway, I agree with you, I hope the debate goes on.
Thanks for the article. Although quoting Andrea (not Angela) Dworkin and Catherine MacKinnon is okay, they're rather old hat by now, in the sense that their ideas have been discussed and to some extent dismissed (as you realize) or improved on. Candida Royalle is by no means the best feminist porn producer. I find her work somewhat male-derived and rather limited.
Pornography is still a problem in other ways, a major one being that it is the de facto sex education where governments have refused to provide such education or have distorted and falsified it (USA is a good example, although not throughout). Blunt censorship is not the answer, especially because pornography is more a symptom than a cause (and does have some use).
Thanks for the correction. I agree, Andrea (!) Dworkin and MacKinnon are old hat now if youre immersed in the intellectual debates of feminist scholars, but I think in terms of how the topic is being debated in the media, its still very much at this kind of level. I guess Candida's work is a matter of taste, and I hadnt meant to comment on that either way, but she is from what I gather still the female producer with the most clout (again, you can correct me if Im wrong).
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i dont agree with this artical because wemon have the right to choose if they don t want to they wont there not forced to be there and do porn alot of wemon in the porn industry love what they do and whats wrong they can say no just as well as guys can
We have very busy lives too (parents of a medically-challenged two year old) and are constantly traveling/working/etc., but we make our love and sex life a priority. It is a vital part of marriage. You have to nurture it, but you have to have fun with it too!
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Oh… and you know what? We went from sex 1x a month, to at least 2x a week, and now let’s just say I’m a very happy woman, and he’s a very happy man… every single time.
We have very busy lives too (parents of a medically-challenged two year old) and are constantly traveling/working/etc., but we make our love and sex life a priority. It is a vital part of marriage. You have to nurture it, but you have to have fun with it too!
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Oh… and you know what? We went from sex 1x a month, to at least 2x a week, and now let’s just say I’m a very happy woman, and he’s a very happy man… every single time.
i need sex at least weekly. hope im not wrong for that .. at least masturbation is an option if he dosent want too